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When you know you should go…Part Two

When you know you should go…Part Two

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, Connection Coach, June 11, 2015 – Bad habits are a familiar misery and easy default. However ugly the terrain, we all like a good shortcut. But sometimes our instinctual responses gridlock progress towards a much better place, making it difficult to fully disengage from damaging and draining relationships.  Note: Even good love relationships are hard work! Discomfort and adjustments are an essential part of sharing life and can ultimately grow an intimate connection. A “damaging and draining” […]

by · June 11, 2015 · Dating, Featured, Health, Lifestyle, Relationship
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When you know you should go…Part One

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, Connection Coach, June 10, 2015 – Her response to “how are you?” was a wincing shrug. Sara dabbed at stray tears and quietly admitted that, once again, she’d been sucked back into the harmful relationship she’d resolved to end. Ten years younger but in perpetual midlife crisis, Tim looked better as a headline than on a full page. And he yanked Sara along like an impatient kid with his first rod and reel. His halfhearted surges of […]

by · June 10, 2015 · Dating, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship
Urbanization and an Epidemic of Loneliness

Urbanization and an Epidemic of Loneliness

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, Connection Coach,  June 1, 2015 – There are more of us wedged into less space with global urbanization on a steady increase. Here in the U.S., more than three-quarters of us live in densely developed areas. A full 91% of the adult population owns a personal phone—most of us with Internet and social media access as well. With such proximity and opportunity—connecting has never been so easy. But so elusive… An AARP survey found that the number of adults describing themselves as […]

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Divorce: Dead-End Or Detour?

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, May 21, 2015 – More men and women are finding themselves in alternate lives they didn’t really plan for. And they’re discovering that…maybe, they didn’t pack so well. Even the most amicable divorce—and few marital disconnects end in a happy handshake—can strand the unprepared on the other side of forty feeling like a roadside ex-con palming the stub of a one-way bus ticket. As painful as a public display of private dysfunction may be, for […]

by · May 21, 2015 · Dating, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship
Cabernet Coaches: The Power of Connection

Cabernet Coaches: The Power of Connection

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Mar 9, 2015 – I call them Cabernet Coaches. No, they aren’t highly specialized sommeliers or vineyard strategists—and some of them actually prefer the chardonnay. Rather, these are the loosely gathered and rather eclectic group of women I meet with for weekly Wednesday night happy hours. “All ages; all stages”—we come in all sizes of life experience. It’s not about the drink specials. It’s basic elemental networking without the use of that stifling—and for some, […]

by · March 10, 2015 · Dating, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship
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Do New Dating Trends Create More Options or Bigger Barriers?

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Mar 9, 2015 – Do New Dating Trends Create More Options or Bigger Barriers?  Two very different interview questions generated the same response. We’re lonely. We’re disconnected. Like a dark cloud, loneliness has crept across our ever-buzzing society. Email, cell phones, online dating, Instagram, Twitter and Facebook offer instant social intersection, but little real connection—because we’ve amped up the idea of efficient living far beyond its intended use. We share our dreams on Pinterest but […]

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Single? Celebrate “Discount Chocolate Day” Instead of Valentine’s Day

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Feb 9, 2015 – Have you noticed that singles and unhappy couples seem to worry more about Valentine’s Day than most of the lovebirds enjoying their piece of “happily ever after?” It’s about space. Even as the number of adult singles have outpaced the marrieds in America, there remains an “odd man out” mentality. However, most of the “wish I hadn’t” anecdotes in my book Date Like A Grownup clearly illustrate the downside of employing […]

by · February 9, 2015 · Dating, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship
Relationships: Isolated Choices Create Further Disconnection (Video)

Relationships: Isolated Choices Create Further Disconnection (Video)

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Dec 1, 2014 – I thought I was the only one. Isolation can do that to you. Make you feel “unique.” But not for a rock star, go-stand-on-the-podium-with-your-medal moment… It’s more of a “You thought this was a costume party? Nice pirate outfit” kind of thing. Becoming a single in your forties is kind of like getting a radical haircut and feeling that prickle of exposed skin on the back of your neck. You become aware of […]

by · December 1, 2014 · Dating, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship, Videos
Still Single? Resolve to Wait For the New Year  

Still Single? Resolve to Wait For the New Year  

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Nov 13, 2014 – “Last call…!” For many adult singles, November is the cut-off. While most hope to meet someone special in time for mistletoe moments, integrating early dating with family gatherings is an added stress most singles would rather forgo. We discussed the pursuit of relationship and the upcoming holidays at a recent Cabernet Coaches’ happy hour. “It’s just awkward. You have to meet the whole family!” “I’d rather wait until January at this […]

by · November 13, 2014 · Dating, Featured, Holiday, Lifestyle, Relationship
The Reroute: Moving On After the Divorce

The Reroute: Moving On After the Divorce

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Nov 7, 2014 – Too bad we don’t have a mental GPS to reassure us that we’re still on the map after major deviations from the plotted course. After my parents died—very young and within a span of five months—there was a sense of displacement, of landing in somebody else’s life. My life had included grandparents for my three children, music with Dad and more time to repair my relationship with my mom. I’d planned […]

by · November 7, 2014 · Dating, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship
5 Keys to Dating Like a Grownup

5 Keys to Dating Like a Grownup

By Heather Dugan, EyesOnNews.com, relationship guru, Nov 5, 2014 – Single? Hello, your name is “Average American.” It turns out that there are a lot of us bypassing bulk food bargains in favor of single servings. In its August 2014 data report, the Bureau of Labor and Statistics revealed that for the first recorded time, more adults are unattached than married in America. And often, the first instinct of the newly single adult is to be part of a couple again—maybe […]

by · November 5, 2014 · Dating, Education, Featured, Lifestyle, Relationship